The Beautiful No and pursuing your dreams. Sounds like a contradiction in terms. We often associate the word “no” with negative connotations. Although we might feel a “no” is a kick in the gut, sometimes after the dust has settled we understand the “no” actually turned out to be the tipping point to something magical!
So…. in steps Sheri Salata-author of “The Beautiful No”. She wrote the book on it! She’s lived it. She’s “walked the walk and talked the talk”. You may find some amazing similarities between your life and Sheri’s much as I have. Let’s dive a little deeper into shall we?
The Beautiful No
Just to get started, let’s first talk a bit about who Sheri Salata is. She is a 59-year-old woman at the time of this article and has done a lot of living to this point in her life. Not to give away too much of her story and fast-forwarding to her work life, she has worked many jobs and worked her way up. Sheri eventually achieved her “dream job” working as a producer on the Oprah Winfrey Show. She eventually became executive producer of the show in the last 5 years of its run. She also was co-president of the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) and president of Oprah’s Harpo Productions.
The Beautiful No came to her just before accepting a position on the Oprah Winfrey Show. Her work life was in a state of disarray. She was working hard, but she was heading in the wrong direction. She had an interview at a prestigious firm for a great job. It seemed like all the stars were aligning and she was finally getting that big break she was looking for. They seemed very interested. Practically handed Sheri the job. A few “I’s” to dot and “T’s” to cross. She had a big celebration with her girlfriends at happy hour. She waited for the call…and waited…and waited. The call came a week or so later. They were sorry, but she didn’t fit in their overall plan at this time. It was the “No”. The kick in the gut “no”.
A week later she received a called from the Oprah Winfrey show. She had applied there months before and nothing came of it. Someone at the show reviewed her resume and felt she might just be the fit they were looking for. Was she interested? INTERESTED! Enter “the dream job”. Seems like that gut-wrenching “no” from a few weeks ago just became beautiful after all!
The Dream Job
Just imagine! What a life! Working on the Oprah Winfrey show for 25 years, culminating in being Executive Producer of the show in its last 5 years-including its spectacular sendoff in year 25! Meeting and working with some of the most influential and admired people on the planet. Being on the inside and having access and personal conversations with people who have had amazing stories to tell and are teaching others the wisdom they possess through their experiences. All of this and working for Oprah Winfrey who as Sheri would eagerly attest was a great person to work for and with.
She wouldn’t get to that stature without being recognized. Recognized for hard work, dedication and a passion for Oprah’s message. Having an innate understanding of what Oprah wanted to portray to her audience. To be trusted enough to be in a job with that degree of importance. It takes a lot of hard work, stamina and perseverance to deliver that to the table on a daily basis. She succeeded by leaps and bounds….but at what cost?
The A-Ha Moment
You are in the midst of, what in some ways must seem like a fairy tale kind of life. Imagine being involved in a part of television history which will be hard to duplicate and in
Beyond that though, she could feel like something was still missing. She had spent so much of her time and energy on her job and family when needed, she herself fell through the cracks. She was overweight. Eating healthy, exercising and taking care of herself were the last things on her mind. Her love life was non-existent. She longed for deep connection. She longed to know that side of herself and she was on a mission to uncover it.
Enter a New Life and Her “Open Book”
The A-ha moment arrives and Sheri feels like it is time to move on. I don’t plan to tell you the whole story because honestly, you would miss an excellent read! Suffice it to say, she explains her soul searching process and how she gets to the point she is at today. She has started a new life after her dream job, yet she’s living the dream none the less. A new dream life has started for Sheri Salata! We, as readers, have the luxury of reading and learning from her experiences in life and where those experiences are taking her.
I have “The Beautiful No” featured as one of the books on my post “Read These Books and Raise Your Game”. In that post, I wrote about the advantages we have in this technologically advanced life to read books through various mediums. I “read” this book in the audio version through my subscription to Amazon’s Audible Program and loved that experience!
Sheri herself narrated the book and you could hear and feel her expressions in every paragraph she read. Her triumphs and all the “hard things” came to the surface in her dialogue. I felt like I was listening to a close friend over a cup of coffee. It was a book I listened to on my walking route and I couldn’t wait to hear what was happening the next day. It definitely was an added incentive to walk daily!
This Book Validates My Life
While reading this book, I was astonished at how much Sheri and I had in common. Now, don’t get me wrong. I was nowhere near an executive producer for a world-famous television show. Having knowledge about anything relating to the entertainment industry is pretty far off my compass.
I was a nurse and was very fortunate to work in an area that I truly loved, and for people I truly respected and who allowed me to grow. It was an amazing time in my life. I loved my job and I gave my all, and like Sheri, I realized that something was still missing. Regret doesn’t even remotely enter the picture, but it was time to pursue that part of me that I needed to tap into. Thanks Sheri Salata for opening up your life in this fabulous book. It makes me realize that the journey I’m on now is just where I need to be!
If you have read the book (or even if you haven’t), I’d love to hear your comments. Has “The Beautiful No” caused a shift in your life in some way? In any case, I know I am not alone. It’s never too late to pursue a new dream or passion, even if you’ve already been lucky enough to live one.
After years of weight issues, I have finally found the formula of combining healthy food choices, regular exercise and positive behavior change to lose weight for good. Coupled with, exploring self-development, being productive and living simply, I am now maintaining a healthy lifestyle and in a good place. I enjoy writing articles to help my readers to become the best they can be!